Relationships Are Complicated

“Why did he stand me up?”

“Why did he stand me up?”

• What are some common reasons that a man stands up a woman, and what can help to get over it? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: There may be many reasons that someone would not follow through on a commitment to go on a date, fear of commitment or dishonesty with themselves about their level of interest …

Men with mother abandonment issues

Men with mother abandonment issues

• What relationship issues do men with mother abandonment issues tend to experience, and what can help? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: Anytime there is a sense of being abandoned by a primary attachment figure, such as a mother, there is likely to be a deeply imbedded fear of being abandoned again and a lack of trust …

How to act feminine in a relationship

How to act feminine in a relationship

• What are some defining traits of femininity, especially in the context of a relationship? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: I think this question needs to be broken down a bit in order to answer it completely. For me, it is not clear if the question is asking about the differences between men and women, and to …

When a guy says he will call you back but doesn’t

When a guy says he will call you back but doesn’t

• Should a woman call back a man who said he’d call her but didn’t? Why or why not? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: This question may be more complex than it appears as I can see gendered and cultural implications and undertones, which can influence one’s perspective on this. Perhaps there are unspoken agreements about the …

How to give a girl space without losing her

How to give a girl space without losing her

• How can a man give space to his girlfriend without losing her? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: The part of the question that I believe needs to be attended to is “without losing her” as this denotes that she was his to begin with and thus there is an immediate fear that breeds a desire to …

How to show affection to your girlfriend

How to show affection to your girlfriend

• What are some of the best ways to convey affection to your significant other? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: In order to answer this question, it would be important to get to know how your partner wants to be loved and shown affection. I find that communication is the best source of affection because it conveys …

How to make an independent woman fall in love with you

How to make an independent woman fall in love with you

• What should a man know about attracting and dating an independent-minded woman? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: The universal truth of relationships is that we must respect and honor the autonomy of our partners while also paying attention to the needs of the relationship itself. If your partner, or potential partner, is independent-minded, it is important …

How to know if you like someone or if you’re just lonely

How to know if you like someone or if you’re just lonely

• How can you tell whether you actually have feelings for someone, or are just lonely? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: If this is a question you are asking yourself, it may be a good idea to pause your dating life and spend some time with yourself, to learn how to enjoy being with yourself. Loneliness is …

Spouse with anxiety and anger?

Spouse with anxiety and anger?

• What are some tips for dealing with a spouse with anger and anxiety issues? Andrew Byrne, LMFT: Before I discuss possible tips of how to show up for a partner who may be guided more strongly by his/her emotions, I feel it is important to first acknowledge the potential safety issues for you as …

How to tell someone you need space

How to tell someone you need space

• What’s the best way to tell someone you need space in the relationship? Rachel Elder, LMHC: Focus on the positive need for space. What does having some space in the relationship from your partner do for you? Does it help you take time to care for yourself so you can care for them well? …

How to express your feelings to a girl

How to express your feelings to a girl

• What tips do you have for men who have trouble expressing their feelings to women? Rachel Elder, LMHC: Emotional intimacy is important for a relationship. To increase your ability to express your feelings, it can help to work with a therapist to increase your understanding around your feelings as well as what makes it …

“She dumped me, should I ignore her?”

“She dumped me, should I ignore her?”

• Should a man ignore a woman who dumped him or should he try to communicate with her? How would it help? Elle Anzalone, LMFT, LADAC: This question is a tough one because it centers on nuance. There are a few red flags that one could look out for to measure the appropriateness of ‘closure’ …

“I fell in love with my side chick”

“I fell in love with my side chick”

• What should a man do when he falls in love with a woman he’s cheating with? Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S. LMFT: It would be important for him to think about the first relationship he is in. He can ask if the first relationship is already over and if this new relationship is worth pursuing. If …

“My husband left me because I cheated”

“My husband left me because I cheated”

• What should a woman do when her husband leaves her because he caught her cheating? Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S. LMFT: I would recommend that she take this time to explore what the reason was for the cheating (if this work has not already been done). If it was for reasons of not feeling valued, heard, …

When a married man falls in love with another woman

When a married man falls in love with another woman

• What could contribute to a married man falling in love with another woman, and what should his wife do if it happens? Peggy Yoder, M.A., LMFT Associate: One thing that contributes to married men being vulnerable to falling in love with other women, is when they don’t feel admired and respected at home. There …

Signs you are on his mind

Signs you are on his mind

• What does it mean when a man tells a woman he’s thinking of her, and what other signs are there that she’s on his mind? Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S. LMFT: This could mean a few things such as, she is a priority to him, that he cares about her, or that she is important to …

“He doesn’t want a relationship but won’t let me go”

“He doesn’t want a relationship but won’t let me go”

• Why do some men refuse to let go of a woman he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with, and what should be done in this situation? Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S. LMFT: This often comes up in abusive relationships were maybe there is some controlling and cheating occurring. This could be attributed to personality …

“He told me he loves me, now what?”

“He told me he loves me, now what?”

• How should (or shouldn’t) a woman react when she receives a confession of love from a suitor? Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S. LMFT: If this occurs and this confession is not one that a woman wants, then she shouldn’t entertain it. Quickly share that this is not the type of relationship that was intended. It will …

“Everything my husband does irritates me”

“Everything my husband does irritates me”

• What could be the reason that a woman finds everything about her husband or boyfriend annoying and irritating, and what should be done about it? Charles Bauman, LMFT: In 95% of the couples and families in my clinical practice (and my own family), the household is governed by a “female-centric” system. Unfortunately, the women’s …

How to get over a divorce you didn’t want

How to get over a divorce you didn’t want

• What can help someone get over a divorce they didn’t want? Kristiana Benson, LMFT: It can be extremely disheartening and derailing to go through a divorce that the individual didn’t want. It is necessary to acknowledge the divorce as a grief, much like when someone passes away. Even though this isn’t a physical death, …

How to tell a guy to back off your girlfriend

How to tell a guy to back off your girlfriend

• What is the wisest way for a man to tell someone to back off from his girlfriend? Kristiana Benson, LMFT: In this situation the boyfriend needs to be direct and concise with the other person who is communicating/flirting with his girlfriend. In most situations that require communication, “in person” communication is best, however there …

“Why am I doubting my relationship?”

“Why am I doubting my relationship?”

• What causes feelings of doubt in a relationship? How much is normal and what can help control them? Cameron Murphey, LMFT: What causes feelings of doubt in a relationship? It is normal to have feelings of doubt in a relationship. Common doubts include: Do I really love my partner? Does my partner really love …

What happens when you stop chasing a man?

What happens when you stop chasing a man?

• What tends to happen when a woman suddenly stops chasing a man? Janet Lee Whitney, MA, LMFT: There are 3 scenarios of what can happen when a woman stops chasing a man. #1) The most common response from a man when a woman stops chasing him, is that he becomes the pursuer. This dynamic …

When a woman says “it’s fine”

When a woman says “it’s fine”

• What can it mean when a woman says ‘I’m fine’ or ‘it’s fine’? Libby Supan, MA, LMFT: FINE = Frustrated Insecure Neurotic Emotional It doesn’t mean much literally because “fine” is not a feeling. A woman (or any gender) will respond to “I’m fine” when typically asked “How are you?” or “How are you …

How to save a relationship that’s falling apart

How to save a relationship that’s falling apart

• What can be done to save a relationship that’s falling apart? Lyndsey Murray, MS, LPC, CST: If it feels like a relationship is falling apart, it is worth examining a few things: 1) Communication, 2) Expectations, 3) Values, morals, and life goals. If any of those don’t match between you and your partner, they …

“My boyfriend is too busy for me”

“My boyfriend is too busy for me”

• What should a woman do when her boyfriend is always too busy for her? Lyndsey Murray, MS, LPC, CST: Every person feels differently about what constitutes being “too busy,” and I would gauge how your boyfriend feels about this. I would also examine what emotions are coming up for you – is it sadness, …

How to tell your crush you like him

How to tell your crush you like him

• What are the best direct and indirect ways for a man or woman to confess to someone that they like them? Lyndsey Murray, MS, LPC, CST: My advice is always to be direct – it could be anything from “Hey, I like you!” to “Can I take you on a date?” Usually when someone …

How to beat a narcissist at her own game

How to beat a narcissist at her own game

• What tips do you have on beating narcissists at their own game? Lyndsey Murray, MS, LPC, CST: My advice is to be strong with your boundaries and trust your intuition that your version of reality is the truth. Don’t let everything be about them; remember that your needs are important in a relationship and …

Relationship red flags for guys

Relationship red flags for guys

• What are some red flags when dating a man? Maria DeRubeis, MSW, RSW: Love Bombing When your partner attempts to manipulate you to become dependent on him. i.e. “I can’t live without you”, “I have never met anyone likeyou”. The love bomber will talk all about your future, shower you with affection and grandiose …

How to communicate with a husband who will not

How to communicate with a husband who will not

• How can a woman communicate with a husband who refuses to communicate with her? Delee D’Arcy, LPC, LMFT: When we do one thing different, people around us cannot respond in exactly the same way. Men and women communicate very different. He will likely not speak a lot of feelings or use as many words …

How to get over girlfriend’s past

How to get over girlfriend’s past

• If a man feels uncomfortable with his girlfriend’s past, what can be done to help him overcome them? Delee D’Arcy, LPC, LMFT: Say your feelings. Spoken feelings (mad, sad, glad, scared or distrusting) vs facts/beliefs are clearer. You cannot argue feelings. Realize that we all have a past. If her past goes against your …

How to deal with a commitment-phobic man

How to deal with a commitment-phobic man

• How should a woman deal with a commitment-phobic man? Clinical Psychologist Gaby Balsells: It is not the woman’s job to convince, trick or wait for that commitment-phobic man to change his mind. Quite the opposite, the most loving thing to do is to respect where he is now and the fact that he’s not …

How often do ghosters come back?

How often do ghosters come back?

• What are the chances that someone who ‘ghosted’ you will come back? Clinical Psychologist Gaby Balsells: Slim to none. Low chances. Someone who has access to you, because they have your phone number or social media, but is not contacting you is not someone who is interested in you. Therefore if someone ghosted you, …

How to stop liking someone

How to stop liking someone

• Is it possible to make yourself stop liking someone? What can help? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: Our feelings come uninvited. We can’t control them, but we can make wise choices to separate from a person who is not a suitable partner. First, we must not [be intimate] with them anymore because the hormones in our …

Dating a separated man with children

Dating a separated man with children

• What is your advice on dating a separated man with children? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: If you choose to date a separated man with children, he may not want you to be involved with his kids until the relationship is well established. He will be protective of his children who have already experienced a loss …

How many dates before an “exclusive talk”?

How many dates before an “exclusive talk”?

• How and when should a couple have a conversation about defining their relationship? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: I’m from the school of thought that having the conversations defining the relationship early is better than later. When I met my husband, in the very first week that we were together, I announced to him that I …

How to make him realize he made a mistake

How to make him realize he made a mistake

• What circumstances and factors tend to make a man regret leaving a woman and make him come back to her? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: Sometimes, when a relationship hits a challenging period, the man may leave, thinking that the relationship is not the right one for him. He may wise up and discover that he …

“My boyfriend is ignoring me, should I ignore him too?”

“My boyfriend is ignoring me, should I ignore him too?”

• Should a woman ignore a boyfriend who is ignoring her or are there other ways to handle the situation? Anita Avedian, LMFT, CAMS-IV: The sense of feeling unheard and invalidated when ignored in a relationship can be a painful and damaging experience. Although it may be tempting to react and escalate when you are …

Examples of physical boundaries in relationships

Examples of physical boundaries in relationships

• What are some examples of boundaries (physical and otherwise) in a romantic relationship? Linda Charnes, LMFT: The very premise of a romantic relationship is safety. When we connect with anyone in a relationship of any kind: social, business, transactional, friendship or love, we want to feel comfortable. Especially when we choose a romantic partner, …

What to talk about with a guy friend

What to talk about with a guy friend

• What advice would you have for a woman who doesn’t know what to talk about with male acquaintances? Mark Beck, LPC, LMHC: The great relationship researcher, John Gottman has a popular saying that is great advice for such cases. It’s actually great advice for women OR men. When we don’t know what to talk …

“He’s not ready for a relationship but likes me”

“He’s not ready for a relationship but likes me”

• What’s going on when a man likes a woman but isn’t ready for a relationship? Clinical Psychologist Gaby Balsells: There are 2 things that could be happening here: He’s just not that into her. He might like her plenty but not quite enough to really put both feet in and invest the time, energy …

When to stop pursuing a woman

When to stop pursuing a woman

• When is it time for a man to stop pursuing a woman he’s interested in? Clinical Psychologist Gaby Balsells: When she says so. With her words. So, as a man in pursuing a woman it might become apparent by her body language, lack of response or enthusiasm or her communication that she is not …

How to deal with a jealous husband

How to deal with a jealous husband

• What advice do you have for dealing with a jealous partner, and just how much jealousy is healthy in a relationship? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: Jealousy is a form of fear. The partner that is jealous does not yet have enough trust to have their fears calmed down. It’s a good rule to not be …

Can an emotionally unavailable man change?

Can an emotionally unavailable man change?

• What are the best ways to make an emotionally unavailable man open up, and what factors can make it difficult? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: When a woman is demanding or impatient, she is working against her own best interests. When she can be patient with a man who is reluctant to open up, she’s more …

What to do if your girlfriend is ignoring you

What to do if your girlfriend is ignoring you

• What should a man do about a girlfriend who is ignoring him? Kristiana Benson, LMFT: The best way to approach this concern (even if a man is hesitant) is to speak concisely regarding his feelings. It is easier to hear the feelings from the man who feels ignored if the concerns are presented in …

How to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy

How to tell if your girlfriend is texting another guy

• What are some signs that a man’s girlfriend is secretly texting another man, and what should he do if that’s found to be the case? Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W.: Having contact with other men who are friends or business associates is no threat; it’s only other potential dating material that is the threat. An open, …

“Why am I so unhappy in my relationship?”

“Why am I so unhappy in my relationship?”

• What can cause unhappiness in a relationship, and what can help? Jeff Murrah, LPC, LMFT, LCDC: There are many causes of unhappiness in relationships. Bear in mind that the word happiness has as its root the word “Happen”. I have found that happiness is often based on having a series of happenings. In relationships, …

“He left me for her”

“He left me for her”

• What should a woman do when her partner leaves her for someone else? Clinical Psychologist Gaby Balsells: Close all loops in terms of communication + connection together. This means, take care of all unfinished business, like giving back items or anything you need to give back, so that there’s no pending conversations that can …

“My boyfriend won’t let me break up with him”

“My boyfriend won’t let me break up with him”

• What should a woman do about a boyfriend who won’t let her break up with him? Della Mullins, LCPC: Well, to answer this question one needs to understand that no one has control over you. Although in a relationship each party compromises and tries to consider the other person’s feelings there are no stipulations …

Cell phone privacy in marriage

Cell phone privacy in marriage

The idea of checking partners’ cellphones most likely existed long before their widespread adoption. Not only does this show disrespect and mistrust, snooping on your partners’ phone is an invasion of privacy. Even if you are curious avoid anything like it, brace up and talk to your partner about it. There is absolutely no reason …

Characteristics of a selfish husband

Characteristics of a selfish husband

Every woman’s hope when they go into a marriage is that they’re going into it with someone who will always have their back and support them. Unfortunately, not everyone is that lucky. Some women have ended up in marriages with inconsiderate and selfish men who have done nothing but make their lives harder. The worst …

When he pulls away early in the relationship

When he pulls away early in the relationship

Everything is going great and then he unexpectedly pulls away from you and distances himself from the relationship. You’re sure that he likes you and that you had built a great connection but can’t tell why the relationship suddenly turned downhill. This is not uncommon in relationships and can be quite frustrating when it occurs. …

How to deal with the silent treatment from your spouse

How to deal with the silent treatment from your spouse

One of the commonest ways couples fight is when one of them gives the other person the silent treatment. Oftentimes, the silent treatment happens when a partner pressures the other with complaints or requests but is met with total silence. It can be extremely frustrating for the other partner, as it causes more harm than …

Signs your ex is in a rebound relationship

Signs your ex is in a rebound relationship

One of the worst news a person can hear while nursing a heartbreak is that their ex, the one that just broke their heart, is in a new relationship within a short period of the breakup. You begin to wonder if they really loved you at all and why they were able to move on …

Signs he will never propose

Signs he will never propose

At some point in every relationship, you’ll begin to assess the possibility of it lasting forever. In your mind’s eye, you’ve found the man you want to walk down the aisle with but any time you bring up the idea of long term commitment, he gets defensive and tries to shut you down. At this …

How to tell your husband you want a separation

How to tell your husband you want a separation

Asking your husband for a separation is one of the toughest conversations a woman can have in her lifetime. You have a whole lot of emotions going through your mind ranging from anticipation to fear and sometimes, guilt. If you are willing and ready to go through this, here are some tips that would help …

Saving a marriage after separation

Saving a marriage after separation

Oftentimes, when things go south in a marriage, the next line of action is usually for the couples to separate. Separation isn’t a divorce, rather it is a period where the couple decides what they really want. The separation makes them understand whether the marriage is worth fighting for. If you intend to save your …

Why do guys stop texting for a few days?

Why do guys stop texting for a few days?

You meet a guy, connect with him, go on a few dates, probably, and begin to text each other constantly. You tell each other about your days and even make jokes about certain things that happen during the day. Then you text him and he doesn’t reply. In the time you’ve known him, you have …

“My boyfriend went through my phone!”

“My boyfriend went through my phone!”

You still can’t stop thinking about the fact that he went through your phone. “Why did he have to go through my phone”, you keep asking yourself. Whether he confessed to going through your phone or you found out some other way, it’s natural to keep wondering why he did it. He shouldn’t have gone …

“My boyfriend is always on his phone”

“My boyfriend is always on his phone”

No one wants their boyfriend’s attention stolen by another person much less a device, especially one as mobile as a phone. People take their phones everywhere, and that can be a major source of concern, especially if the phone gets in the way of making human interactions. So, you were on a date the other …

“I went through my boyfriend’s phone and found something!”

“I went through my boyfriend’s phone and found something!”

Everyone does something they regret once in a while. Going through your boyfriend’s phone could be that thing. Trust is an essential component of every relationship, and when you go through your boyfriend’s phone, trust tends to be broken both ways – you break his trust, and if you find anything that suggests he hasn’t …

“I can’t talk to girls!”

“I can’t talk to girls!”

As unbelievable as it may seem, there is a significant number of guys who find it difficult to talk to girls. They may thrive in other aspects of their lives, but talking to girls is that act they’ve found rather tasking. In this article, we will be highlighting common reasons why guys that can’t talk …

“I resent my husband for not setting boundaries”

“I resent my husband for not setting boundaries”

Before marriage, everyone has all these exciting expectations that usually involve sunshine and rainbows. Even those who boast of happy marriages never tell the full story so a lot of people are actually shocked when it’s finally their turn. You hear stories of how they found the love of their lives, and how their partners …

How to propose to a girl

How to propose to a girl

You meet an amazing girl and are sure you want to be with her. You can’t shake off the feeling that what you share with her is completely genuine just like what she feels for you and want to take things one step further by proposing to her. Now, you need all the information you …

How to get a guy to talk to you

How to get a guy to talk to you

There may be plenty of guys willing to talk to you, but more often than not they are the kind of guys you’re not interested and you keep wondering why the ones you are interested in do not summon the courage to come to talk to you. You’re not sure of what you’re doing to …

How to deal with a selfish husband

How to deal with a selfish husband

Anyone who has had to deal with a selfish person can tell stories of how often they were hurt by their words or actions. Now imagine you had to share a life with this person, meaning they were always almost around. That’s what it’s like to be someone dealing with a selfish husband. Nothing erodes …

Is she playing hard to get or not interested?

Is she playing hard to get or not interested?

With the number of happy relationships being flaunted on social media, you would think that women have men completely figure out and vice versa. However, a lot of men are still trying (and failing) to decipher the actions of women. So now you’ve met this girl whose feeling you’re not sure about. Does she like …

How to act when he pulls away and comes back

How to act when he pulls away and comes back

Some of the things men in relationships do are downright unexpected and beyond one’s imagination. You’ve got a great thing going and may have even said goodnight in the cutest way there is a night before, and the next day he pulls away, distancing himself from you and the relationship. When a man pulls away …

How stepchildren can ruin a marriage

How stepchildren can ruin a marriage

Nearly everyone who has had children from a previous marriage or relationship goes into a new marriage with the hopes of creating the perfect blended family. More often than not, these dreams are far from reality. With children who have been raised by a different parent and under different conditions than you’re offering, it might …

How long do rebound relationships last on average?

How long do rebound relationships last on average?

Heartbreaks can be terrible, and since humans have the universal need for love and affection, rebound relationships are one of the ways of adapting – they begin before one completely heals from a heartbreak whether from a breakup or divorce. Rebound relationships are especially common amongst persons that were in a long-term relationship and can’t …

Funny questions to ask a girl to make her laugh

Funny questions to ask a girl to make her laugh

As complicated as women seem, one fact remains constant: they love to laugh. This is open knowledge that one can leverage to win their crush. Although women love to laugh, they do not laugh at random jokes and questions, and it is important to be deliberate about making her laugh. We present a pool of …

How to make a marriage work with stepchildren

How to make a marriage work with stepchildren

In all honesty, being a step-parent is a Herculean task. It comes with a lot of ups and downs and if care is not taken, it can cause a huge strain on your marriage. Marriages on their own require a whole lot of hard work, not to talk of adding the stress of having step-children. …

How to deal with husband working night shift?

How to deal with husband working night shift?

The dream of almost every married woman is to have her husband by her side every time, especially at night. Having him around makes her feel loved, secure and happy. However, there are sometimes when your husband would need a little extra money to meet the family’s needs. In cases like this, your husband might …

What causes resentment in a marriage?

What causes resentment in a marriage?

It’s no news that one of the many slow poisons that are fast killing marriages is resentment. It doesn’t happen out of nowhere, but builds up over time. In marriages where both partners are used to bottling up emotions or sweeping differences under the rug, in no time these marriages will be overcome by resentment. …

“My wife doesn’t respect me!”

“My wife doesn’t respect me!”

One of the fundamental keys to a successful marriage is respect. Respect makes either partner feel loved and cared for. It particularly does wonders to the self-esteem of the partner. But what do you do in cases where you feel you are being disrespected? If you have reached that frustrating point in your marriage where …

“Signs my separated wife wants to reconcile?”

“Signs my separated wife wants to reconcile?”

Not everyone rides into the sunset with the man/woman of their dreams. Sometimes, relationships and marriages come to an end. This does not mean that your feelings for that person will suddenly fade. You may even toy with the idea of giving your love another chance. While this might seem like something you should try …

Taking a break in a relationship: rules?

Taking a break in a relationship: rules?

Breaks are necessary in relationships for several reasons: to find one’s self and evaluate the state of the relationship amongst others. Thus, breaks in relationships are strategic and purposeful. As such, some ground rules should be laid down when a couple decides to take a break from a relationship. The rules are important to ensure …

Taking a break from dating

Taking a break from dating

Everyone hopes to find that one person that sweeps them away and is everything and more to them, and with this intention, they go from one relationship to the other hoping to find the one. As much as it is important to date while finding the one, it is also important to know when to …

Stop texting him to get his attention!

Stop texting him to get his attention!

You like a guy and can’t stop texting him and doing everything in your power to be around him. As cute as your actions may seem, you don’t want to be that person that is seen as clingy and annoying by their crush, and that’s exactly what you’re gunning for. Having a crush on a …

Dating a single dad with full custody

Dating a single dad with full custody

With divorce rates on the increase and family courts busier than ever, the chances of dating a man with a kid (from a previous marriage or relationship) are higher too. Now if he is not just a single dad, but one with full custody of his kid(s), there are a lot of things you should …

When he takes you for granted

When he takes you for granted

The most amazing thing about being in a relationship is having someone who would care for you so dearly no matter what happens. It is a very heart-warming feeling when you have someone who would tell you how amazing you are despite having a very bad day. Unfortunately, this is not what happens all the …

When a man treats you badly

When a man treats you badly

Sometimes, relationships become more stressful than beautiful. You fall in love with someone, decide to start dating them and everything proceeds beautifully before you start noticing signs that make you uncomfortable. You’re not sure what the problem is but are not entirely comfortable with the relationship. You’re sure that it is not physical abuse but …

Dating a divorced dad: red flags

Dating a divorced dad: red flags

The majority of women think that dating a divorced dad comes with a lot of complications because they already have priorities, they have undergone painful experiences, or they might still be too emotional after the process. However, even if you are single, you have complications too right? So that does not mean that divorced dads …

“My relationship is stressing me out!”

“My relationship is stressing me out!”

Relationships supposedly give you inspiration, keep you motivated, and most of all, happiness. After all, this is one of the reasons you get into it right? It is actually for the majority of couples but not at all times. There will come a time or stage in your relationship where you would experience problems and …

“I don’t trust my girlfriend”

“I don’t trust my girlfriend”

If you ask ten people what contributed to their previous relationship breakups, at least 6 of them will mention lack of trust as one of the reasons. So, the question, “I don’t trust my girlfriend, what do I do?” comes along for most people. Trust is a necessity for any relationship, from work relationships to …

How to say sorry to your boyfriend in a romantic way

How to say sorry to your boyfriend in a romantic way

Getting hurt and hurting others seems to be a regular part of any relationship. There are disappointments from unmet expectations, lies, cheating, and even unintentional mistakes that lead to broken hearts. As it is a regular part of relationships, it is important to know how to turn such situations around and take these scenarios as …

How to say sorry to a girl

How to say sorry to a girl

The worst thing about fighting with your girl is that it costs both of you minutes, hours, days, sometimes even weeks of happiness. These are times that you could have had with each other – building memories and deepening your relationship with each other. However, fights are things that you cannot avoid in any kind …

How to confront your boyfriend after snooping

How to confront your boyfriend after snooping

Every now and then, we get suspicions about our partners that we may not be able to shake off or even discuss with them (if you’ve never had those, congratulations you’re one of the lucky ones). Some of us go on to handle it properly by having that discussion with them. Some others do not …

How to bring back the spark in a relationship

How to bring back the spark in a relationship

A break-up is one of the most traumatic emotional experiences that anyone can ever experience in life. This experience can lead to several effects like depression, lack of motivation, self-pity, anger, embarrassment, and more. This is actually one of the things that keep a person from getting into a relationship. It doesn’t matter how long …

How do alpha males treat their girlfriends?

How do alpha males treat their girlfriends?

Nature, life adventures and preferences separate people into groups. There are the dominating alphas and then the betas and the other less dominating personality types. In any wolf pack, there is an alpha, that wolf that leads all members of the pack has to fight with other members of the pack to keep their position …

Effects of working night shift on relationships

Effects of working night shift on relationships

Relationships are not easy. It takes work, sacrifices, and compromise from time to time. However, when one or both of the persons in a relationship works the night shift, you need extra effort in making the relationship work. First, you need to understand the effects of working night shift on relationships and see if there …

Dating someone who is separated

Dating someone who is separated

There are so many things that do not matter for some people when it comes to love like age, gender, physical appearance, and unfortunately, even marital status. They say they cannot choose the person they fall in love with, it just happens even if the person is still married. However, a lot of people believe …

How to tell if a girl is using you

How to tell if a girl is using you

Are you unsure about your woman’s feelings for you? Is that woman really into you in the first place? Do you have a tiny hunch that your gal is only using you? Find out from these tips on HOW TO TELL IF A GIRL IS USING YOU: She does not introduce you to friends and …

Long distance relationship: Valentine’s Day

Long distance relationship: Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s day is something every couple gets a little excited about. It’s the time to give your partner something nice, or plan an amazing trip to some place romantic, or just simply spend time together. But what if you can’t do any of that because hundreds of miles separate the two of you? Being in …

Not spending enough time together in relationship

Not spending enough time together in relationship

It’s natural to want to spend a lot of time with someone you are in a relationship with. Even with this strong natural craving to want to spend time with one’s partner, research has quite a number of relationships suffer from both parties not spending enough time together. There are only 24 hours in a …

When a woman is silent

When a woman is silent

Many people would admit that they don’t like to be around people who talk too much. But try being around someone who doesn’t talk at all. While being silent is not always a bad thing, if a woman suddenly goes unusually quiet, it may be due to some of these reasons. She’s done something she’s …

What does “taking it slow” mean to a guy?

What does “taking it slow” mean to a guy?

You may think everything is perfect and going according to plan until one day your man hits you with, “I think things are moving a little too fast right now. I think we should slow it down”. Suddenly your head beings to spin and you’re wondering what it all means. This has been the reality …

Stages of falling in love for a woman

Stages of falling in love for a woman

People say that women fall in love faster than men and they actually believe in love at first sight. It might be true but it does not make it any easier and love for women does not happen in just a blink of an eye. Just like with men, they have stages too but the …

“My boyfriend says he needs space but keeps texting me”

“My boyfriend says he needs space but keeps texting me”

He broke your heart when he told you that he needs space. You think if it is ever possible to want to be away from the person that you love. You think about everything that you sacrificed just to be with him especially in times when he needs you most. You cry yourself to sleep …

“My boyfriend doesn’t trust me”

“My boyfriend doesn’t trust me”

The importance of trust in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. Relationships where both parties trust each other healthily grow and develop into long-lasting bonds. However, trust doesn’t come readily for some people, and that could be the case for your boyfriend. When your boyfriend doesn’t trust you, the relationship will most probably become strained. You …

Men with low self-esteem in relationships

Men with low self-esteem in relationships

There is a stereotype and men tend to be strong and dominant which is why women sometimes feel surprised when they come across a man who has low self-esteem. They think that loving a man with such low confidence is impossible because they can play a major role in keeping a relationship strong and secure. …

“Married man likes me at work!”

“Married man likes me at work!”

Love at the workplace is not something rare. You spend hours with each other on a daily basis. There are times when you have to work together closely and that you may have to work overtime with your colleagues. That is why it is no wonder that attractions start and romance brews in the workplace. …

“I thought she was the one…”

“I thought she was the one…”

Another relationship just ended and you’re wondering why she wasn’t the one. You were so sure, but the turn of events has proven otherwise. Now, you’re wondering how you will be able to tell the one or if there even is actually someone out there who is. Finding that person that connects with you on …

“I thought he was the one…”

“I thought he was the one…”

It’s quite rare to meet someone who you connect with on the soulmate level. They become a major part of who you are, you make plans around their schedules and basically share experiences with them. You get so comfortable and in love with them that you totally forget the idea that what you have could …

Is she shy or not interested?

Is she shy or not interested?

Even in this day and age, it’s still rare that the woman makes the first move. However, there are still men who are just as shy. Most men would only give it a try if they feel that the woman is also interested in them. The problem is that some women are too shy to …

Is he shy or not interested?

Is he shy or not interested?

Some men are naturally shy. However, some of them try their best to overcome their shyness when they meet a woman that they really like. There are also some guys who are not able to overcome their shyness at all. This is why it can be quite hard to tell whether a guy is just …

How to text an ex-girlfriend after no contact

How to text an ex-girlfriend after no contact

Texting an ex-girlfriend is uncharted waters for most people; they maintain radio silence even when they feel the urge to get in touch with her, especially if it was a bad breakup. If you’ve decided to get in touch with your girlfriend after following the no contact rule for as long as you could, it …

How to text a girl for the first time

How to text a girl for the first time

The act of texting a girl for the first time is one which no guy is perfect at. Even those that assume that they’ve got the act of texting a girl for the first time figured out still manage to slip up every now and then. There’s no universal rule on texting a girl for …

How to slow down a relationship

How to slow down a relationship

Being in a relationship could be the best or worst thing depending on who, when, and how you decide to work things out. Sometimes, you may think you know exactly what you’re doing until you realize some months down the line that there are a lot of things that you’ve missed. Now your partner is …

How to make the first move on a shy guy

How to make the first move on a shy guy

With the way society is set up, guys are generally known to make the first move. However, some guys are so shy that they would never intentionally reveal their feelings first. If a guy like this has caught your attention and you’re tired of dropping hints that he’s not picking up on, then you might …

How to make a man respect you

How to make a man respect you

Do you want to be respected by the man you love or even by a stranger you just met? It sounds easy but it seems you are having a hard time achieving it, no matter what you wear, no matter where you are, and no matter who you are with. Respect is also one of …

How to know if a shy guy likes you secretly

How to know if a shy guy likes you secretly

With outgoing people, it’s always easy to tell when they like because of how open they are about their feelings. Shy people, on the other hand, are wired differently. They are usually very conscious of their feelings and would therefore be unwilling to share them. Hanging out with someone like this makes it really hard …

How to tell if a girl is single

How to tell if a girl is single

So you just met a new girl and you both hit it off right away. You’re staying up together and having these conversations and now you’ve started to feel like maybe, just maybe, you want to take it a step further with her. But there’s just one problem: you don’t know if she’s single or …

How to get a shy guy to make a move

How to get a shy guy to make a move

If a guy is shy, getting him to break out of his shell and take your relationship to the next level may be a really tall order. The mere fact that you like him a lot or that he feels the same way won’t exactly change a thing. Unless he gets a push from you …

How much time should couples spend together?

How much time should couples spend together?

Relationships require both parties to invest resources which includes time spent together. Since there is no universal rule on this, one may wonder what a healthy amount is. We are not here to establish any form of rules. Instead, we will be covering ways to evaluate how much time you spend together, ways to increase …

How men fall in love: stages

How men fall in love: stages

The dating stage is definitely the most exciting part of a relationship. This is when you feel extreme emotions of nervousness, excitement, and happiness. It is the stage where you get to know each other better, find the things or hobbies that you are compatible with, and determine if he or she is the one …

“He wants space – should I text him?”

“He wants space – should I text him?”

When he is asking for space, should you jam with his music and play cool or should you still text him from time to time? You may feel the need to text him anyway just to check how he’s doing, what he is doing, what he thinks, how he feels, and more importantly if there’s …

Signs she is a high-value woman

Signs she is a high-value woman

How do we measure a woman’s value? Is it by her looks? Clothes? Job? Success? It varies from person to person who assesses the worth of a woman. However, there are general indicators that tell her value. Here are some of those indicators that say whether a woman is of high value, which are backed …

“Girlfriend wants space but not a break-up”

“Girlfriend wants space but not a break-up”

Is it a bad idea to take a break from someone? Do you owe your partner something when you take some time apart? What is the difference between a break and a breakup? When my boyfriend broke up with me, he initially asked for space. According to Berit “Brit” Brogaard, author of On Romantic Love, …

Dating a woman with low self-esteem

Dating a woman with low self-esteem

A woman must know how to love herself first in order to give love to someone. That is one of the basic rules in a successful relationship. However, not all women are confident enough either with their looks, their flaws, and many more, which results in low self-esteem. Sadly, these insecurities and low self-confidence directly …

Dating a widower: red flags

Dating a widower: red flags

It goes without saying that accepting and moving on from the death of a loved one is truly a struggle. It requires the bereaved to use every single ounce of strength within them just so they could continue waking up each morning and live their lives the way they are supposed to. Now imagine having …

Dating a widower over 50

Dating a widower over 50

Most widowers over 50 have been married for more or less three decades. In such a span of time, many things have happened. He shared many ups and downs with his late wife. It is something that you can never compete with. It is all in the past so you can never win no matter …

When a man is vulnerable with you

When a man is vulnerable with you

Vulnerability is a key ingredient of a lasting relationship. It is what develops intimacy and trust between partners. However, men and women are driven by their fear of being vulnerable with their partner. They fear that exposing their true personality might scare off them off. They believe that maintaining a safe distance from each other …

Dating a woman with trust issues

Dating a woman with trust issues

Understand her pain You can’t deal with something you don’t understand. That is why the first thing that you should be doing when dating a woman with trust issues is to understand what she has been through. Know that she has faced a great deal of pain from her previous experiences. That is why she …

How to gain trust back in a relationship after lying

How to gain trust back in a relationship after lying

Trust is the most crucial element of a relationship. It is to have complete faith in your partner in anything and everything. Building trust in a relationship is a difficult step that most couples hardly overcome but the couples who have built a strong foundation of trust endure the most difficult hurdles that come along …

How to be vulnerable with a man

How to be vulnerable with a man

Most people seem to find it very hard to be vulnerable in a relationship. Probably because they think vulnerability is a weakness. That’s what makes them so frightened of it. Being vulnerable is in no way related to being weak nor submissive. It does not mean giving up the power to control the other person. …

Why men give the silent treatment after a breakup

Why men give the silent treatment after a breakup

When you were together, you thought that he would very likely be the person you’d spend the rest of your life with. Unfortunately, some good things do come to an end and your relationship was one of them. Now your ex-boyfriend who used to call at least three times a day doesn’t even respond to …

“Why is my husband so selfish and inconsiderate?”

“Why is my husband so selfish and inconsiderate?”

Why is my husband so selfish towords me? This question is one that is not new to the ears of relationship experts and marriage counselors. When a spouse gets to the point where they have to ask this question, then you can tell how strained their relationship already is. Sometimes, these traits are obvious before …

Signs a shy girl likes you: body language

Signs a shy girl likes you: body language

A shy girl will most likely have a hard time expressing how she really feels. That is why if you like a shy girl, you need to be ready with extra sensitive senses and with your decoding skills. You need to be up for the challenge but that is actually great as it means that …

How to flirt with a guy at work

How to flirt with a guy at work

• Things might be a bit too obvious and noticeable to others if there’s no reason for you to be interacting with him, so create excuses and situations where you need to see him for work-related reasons (like working overtime together – just the two of you). It doesn’t even have to involve actual work, …

Is he flirting or just being nice at work?

Is he flirting or just being nice at work?

Context is everything. Common flirty behaviors in casual settings only count in the workplace if: a) it’s not a normal part of the job, or b) he doesn’t do it to anyone else that he’s not interested in. Remember that this isn’t an exact science so try to see patterns of several different signs (and …

“My insecure boyfriend is controlling!”

“My insecure boyfriend is controlling!”

Think your boyfriend might be a bit too insecure and controlling? Look out for these red flags: • Criticising, belittling and shaming. Says lots of things that lower your self-esteem and confidence (everything from the trivial to life-changing) and talks down your accomplishments. In general, he will try to make it known that he’s the …

How to make an insecure woman feel secure

How to make an insecure woman feel secure

• Always try to be forgiving of mistakes and wrongs (whether big or small, accidental or intentional), and be accepting of her flaws (whether physical, mental or situational). • In general women are physically smaller and have less muscular strength than men. Make her feel safe physically, not necessarily by being big and strong (though …

Insecure boyfriend signs

Insecure boyfriend signs

• Too much commitment too fast. Telling you you’re the love of his life when you haven’t even gotten to know each other may seem cute on the outside, but screams insecurity on the inside. • Constantly asks you if you love him, because he needs to be SURE (for the 10th time today). He …

What to do when you feel insecure in a relationship

What to do when you feel insecure in a relationship

• Don’t let feelings of insecurity or past life experiences negatively affect your perceptions, thoughts or behavior towards your partner, especially those that can damage his/her trust in you. Learn to recognize when your resentments, jealousy or suspicions are unfounded (distancing yourself from drama queens/kings would be a good start) – don’t worry about things …

Is he insecure or not interested?

Is he insecure or not interested?

Even insecure guys will unintentionally give away their feelings through their behavior – the following are some signs to watch for: • He goes out of his way to accommodate your preferences (and to learn about them in the first place) and starts adopting them himself. • He enjoys having interesting and deep discourse with …

7-year itch relationship advice

7-year itch relationship advice

• Create a fresh new start together, both mentally and practically. Make new and exciting long-term plans for the future and begin a journey towards it rather than thinking that the current state is your destination. Do you have separate hobbies that you’ve never tried together before? You should try out each others’ pastimes (or …

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