• Leaving the narcissist before they discard can be difficult, but it is possible.
It’s like breaking up with a piece of gum that has lost its flavor. You know you need to spit it out, but for some reason, you just keep chewing. However, leaving the narcissist early on can save you from an even more painful and traumatic experience down the road.
• It’s important to recognize the signs of a potential discard and plan accordingly.
The last thing you want is to be caught off guard by a sudden breakup text or ghosting session. Keep an eye out for any red flags such as increased criticism or distancing behavior so that you can prepare yourself emotionally and mentally for what might happen next.
• The narcissist may become more controlling or abusive as they sense you pulling away.
Think of them like a toddler who doesn’t want to share their toys – except instead of throwing tantrums over Legos, they’re using emotional manipulation tactics to try and regain control over your life. Stay strong in your decision to leave despite their attempts at reeling you back in.
• Document any evidence of abuse or manipulation for legal purposes if necessary.
While we don’t recommend turning into Sherlock Holmes overnight, keeping records of any gaslighting messages or physical violence could come in handy during court proceedings should things escalate further than anticipated (which hopefully won’t happen).
• Create a safety plan in case the narcissist becomes violent during the breakup process.
You never know when someone will take “breaking up” too literally these days. Make sure friends/family are aware of what’s going on and have a safe place where you can stay temporarily until things calm down (or permanently if needed).
• Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist who understands narcissistic abuse dynamics.
Your loved ones may not fully understand what it feels like being stuck under Cupid’s evil twin brother’s spell; however seeking help from someone who does (like a therapist) can make all the difference in your healing journey.
• Be prepared for gaslighting tactics that may make you doubt your decision to leave.
The narcissist will try anything and everything to keep their ego inflated, including making you question whether or not leaving is really worth it. But trust us – it is!
• Remember that leaving early on can prevent long-term emotional damage and trauma.
Think of this as ripping off a Band-Aid instead of slowly peeling it back over time. It might hurt more initially, but ultimately you’ll heal faster than if you continued to prolong the inevitable breakup with the narcissist.
• Leaving the narcissist before they discard may cause them to try and hoover you back in with false promises or apologies.
Just like how dogs wag their tails when they want something from their owners, expect some sweet talkin’ from Cupid’s evil twin brother once he realizes his supply has run dry. Don’t fall for it!
• If possible, cut off all contact with the narcissist after leaving to prevent further emotional damage.
This includes blocking them on social media, deleting phone numbers/emails/messages etc., and avoiding any places where they frequent. Think of this as detoxing yourself from toxic waste – except without having to wear one of those hazmat suits (although sometimes those are pretty stylish).
• Remember that leaving a narcissistic relationship takes time and healing, but it is worth it for your mental health and well-being.
It’s like getting over an addiction – there will be good days and bad days; however choosing yourself first by walking away sets up healthy boundaries which leads towards self-love & acceptance!