• A covert narcissist may not leave someone alone if they still see value in the relationship.
– Covert narcissists are often skilled at manipulating their partners, and they may continue to do so even after a breakup. If they believe that there is something to gain from maintaining contact with their ex-partner, then they will likely try to do just that.
• They may continue to manipulate and control their partner even after a breakup.
– Just because the relationship has ended doesn’t mean that a covert narcissist will stop trying to exert control over their former partner. In fact, some of them become even more desperate for attention once they realize that it’s no longer guaranteed.
• Covert narcissists often struggle with feelings of inadequacy, which can lead them to seek validation from others.
– Despite outward appearances of confidence and superiority, many covert narcissists actually feel insecure about themselves deep down. This insecurity drives them to constantly seek out validation from others – including their romantic partners.
• If a covert narcissist feels threatened or rejected by their former partner, they may try to regain control through stalking or harassment.
– Narcissistic rage is a real thing, folks! When these individuals feel like they’re losing power over someone else (i.e., when you break up with them), it can trigger an intense emotional response. Some might resort to extreme measures like stalking or harassment as a way of reasserting dominance.
• It’s important for those dealing with a covert narcissist to set clear boundaries and cut off all contact if necessary.
– Don’t let yourself be sucked back into the vortex! The only way you’ll truly be able move on from this toxic person is by setting firm boundaries and sticking to them. That means blocking phone numbers/social media accounts/whatever other avenues your ex-narcissist might use as tools for manipulation.
• Seeking support from friends, family, or therapy can help individuals navigate the aftermath of leaving a covert narcissist.
– Breaking up with someone is hard enough as it is, but when you’re dealing with a manipulative and emotionally abusive partner, it can be especially challenging. Don’t try to go through this alone! Seek out support from trusted friends or family members – or even consider seeing a therapist who specializes in healing from narcissistic abuse.
• Covert narcissists may try to maintain contact with their ex-partner through social media or mutual friends.
– Just because they can no longer text/call/email you directly doesn’t mean that your ex-narcissist won’t still find ways to keep tabs on what you’re doing. Be aware that they might use social media (or even common acquaintances) as tools for keeping themselves “in the loop.”
• They may also use guilt-tripping tactics to make their partner feel responsible for the relationship’s failure and keep them engaged.
– It’s not uncommon for covert narcissists to place blame on others rather than taking responsibility for their own actions. If your ex tries to convince you that everything was your fault and that if only YOU had done things differently then maybe the relationship would have worked out…well, don’t buy into it!
• A covert narcissist’s behavior can vary depending on how they perceive the situation, so it is difficult to predict if they will leave someone alone.
– Unfortunately there isn’t really a one-size-fits-all answer here – everyone has different triggers/behaviors/etc., which means every breakup experience will be unique too.
• Some covert narcissists may move on quickly, while others may continue to obsess over their former partner for an extended period.
– Even though we know intellectually that our exes are just people like anyone else…it still stings when we see them seemingly moving on without us right away (especially if WE’RE having trouble getting over THEM). But remember: just because someone appears to be doing well on the surface doesn’t mean they’re actually happy or fulfilled.
• It is important not to engage in any communication with a covert narcissist after ending the relationship as this only reinforces their belief that they still have control.
– Remember what we said earlier about boundaries? This is crucial. The more you allow your ex-narcissist back into your life (even if it’s just through occasional texts or whatever), the less power you’ll have over them – and vice versa. Don’t give them an inch!