“I put more effort into the relationship than my boyfriend”

• What’s going on when one person is putting more effort into the relationship than his or her partner, and what should be done about it?

Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT:

This usually indicates that one partner is feeling more insecure in the relationship. Every relationship is unique and it’s difficult to generalize on the specifics. However, the giver may have an anxious attachment style. They might be ignoring their needs or not taking responsibility for their own insecurity and either addressing the issue with their partner and/or doing more to comfort and nurture themselves. It could be a sign of a codependent relationship, which is often characterized by imbalance. Codependents feel unworthy of love and thus over-give, self-sacrifice, and accommodate in order to keep the relationship and feel loved.

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