The importance of trust in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. Relationships where both parties trust each other healthily grow and develop into long-lasting bonds. However, trust doesn’t come readily for some people, and that could be the case for your boyfriend.
When your boyfriend doesn’t trust you, the relationship will most probably become strained. You may be plagued with thoughts about how to earn your boyfriend’s trust and rekindle the spark in the relationship.
We bring you some pointers on how to earn your boyfriend’s trust and also point out some things that may have have made him gradually lose it
You don’t tell them the truth all the time
In your defense, you may have thought that they do not need to know everything you’re involved in, and that’s why you tell a white lie every now and then. Those white lies have resulted in you eventually losing their trust.
You don’t involve them enough
This also stems from telling those white lies and keeping some part of your life away from them. When your boyfriend finds out that there’s a part of your life he knows very little about, you will begin to lose his trust.
Generally, losing the trust of one’s boyfriends is caused by several factors which begin with not being completely honest with them. So, the starting point is being honest with them and then move on to the areas covered below.
Identify the problem
It is essential to find out what made your boyfriend stop trusting you as this differs amongst relationships. You could begin to trace events back to when you noticed he started asking more questions on your whereabouts or being more snoopy. If you can’t identify the problem, you could reach out to them and ask them why things have changed. When they see that you are genuinely trying to make up on things, they will open up to you.
Work on the problem
A general method for handling trust issues with one’s partner is to become more honest. Tell them about things even when they do not ask, and make them feel more involved in every aspect of your life genuinely.
You should also put more effort into spending quality time with them. The goal shouldn’t be a short-term adjustment but adjustments that will be sustainable since the goal is to regain the spark in the relationship and not make them trust you for a short period and go back to not trusting you.
Start with simple things and take your time
You shouldn’t expect everything to change immediately. Remember that they stopped trusting you for a reason. As long as you are dedicated to regaining their trust, your genuine efforts will pay off. They may resist your efforts initially, and that shouldn’t stop your efforts.
It is also important to note that trust is very fragile. So, you should be completely genuine with your healing efforts. Start with a sincere apology, and steadily work towards building up assurance.