• Fear of commitment is a common issue that affects many people. It’s like the fear of spiders, except it’s not just eight-legged creatures you’re afraid of; it’s also love and long-term relationships.
• This fear can stem from past experiences or personal beliefs about relationships. Maybe they had a terrible ex who cheated on them with their best friend while taking all their money in the divorce settlement. Or maybe they watched too much Disney growing up and now expect every relationship to be as perfect as Cinderella and Prince Charming.
• Some individuals may also have a fear of choosing the wrong person to commit to. They worry that if they choose someone, they’ll get stuck with them forever – even if said person turns out to be an axe murderer or has weird habits like putting pineapple on pizza (the horror!).
• The fear of committing to the wrong person can be caused by uncertainty and doubt in one’s own judgment. Let’s face it – making decisions is hard enough when we’re trying to pick what flavor ice cream we want at Baskin Robbins, let alone deciding who we should spend our lives with.
• It is important for individuals struggling with this fear to take time to reflect on their values, goals, and priorities in life before making any commitments. You don’t want your partner dragging you down when you could’ve been living your dream life as a professional llama farmer.
• Seeking therapy or counseling can also be helpful in addressing these fears and developing healthy relationship habits. Plus, therapists are great listeners! Sometimes all you need is someone who will nod along sympathetically while you rant about how dating sucks nowadays because everyone only wants hookups instead of real connections.
• The fear of commitment or choosing the wrong person can lead to self-sabotage in relationships. Don’t let your inner saboteur ruin something potentially amazing! Unless that potential “something” involves getting matching tattoos after two dates… then maybe listen to that little voice in your head telling you it’s a bad idea.
• It is important for individuals to communicate their fears and concerns with their partners in order to build trust and understanding. Communication is key! Unless, of course, you’re trying to break up with someone via text message… then yeah, don’t do that.
• Some people may have a pattern of repeatedly choosing the wrong person due to unresolved issues from past relationships. Just because your ex was emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean every other person will be too (although let’s be real, some days it feels like they all are).
• Fear of commitment can also be linked to underlying mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression. Don’t underestimate the power of therapy – sometimes talking things out can make all the difference!
• Individuals who struggle with this fear may benefit from practicing mindfulness, meditation, or other relaxation techniques to manage their anxiety. Deep breaths… in through the nose, out through the mouth… now repeat after me: “I am worthy of love and commitment.”